As a caregiver, you might find that you’re frustrated more often than not. It’s tough to do so much on your own, but you might feel just as frustrated about asking for help from the people you love. Your approach might need to change a bit.
You May Need to Shift Your Thinking
One mistake that caregivers often make is that they expect other people in their life to see that they need help and to offer that help. That’s a mistake because people in your life don’t have the perspective that you have. You know you’re struggling and you can see where you’re struggling. To the other people in your life, you look like you’ve got everything under control. You need to let go of the belief that they should just know you need help.
What Do You Need Most?
Sit down and start making a list of what you need the most help with on a daily or weekly basis. What is it that gives you the most trouble? Write it all out, even if you think you don’t have to. This is going to help you to make sure you match up your needs with the right solution.
Who in Your Life Can Help?
You might not have a big family or a large group of friends, but you probably have at least a few people who have offered to help you from time to time. Start compiling a list of those people. They may only be able to help with a specific task or for short periods of time, but they still make the list.
Have Some Conversations and Review What’s Working
Now it’s time to match up your list of helpers with your list of needs. Reach out to the people on your list and let them know what you need. Some of them might need to get really specific with them about exactly what you need, how often, and how you want the task handled. Don’t worry if you’re getting a lot of “no” responses from the people on your list. You’re at least trying. When people do take you up on your request, follow up and make note of how well this all worked for you.
Not getting the help you need is frustrating, but you don’t have to give up. Senior care providers are there for you and your elderly family members when you need them to be and can be a perfect solution when friends and family can’t help as much as you or they would like.
If you or an aging loved-one are considering hiring Homecare in Royal Oak, MI, please contact the caring staff at Alliance Senior Care today.
Call (248) 274-2170.
Alliance Senior Care provides all the services that a senior would need to remain in their own home, housekeeping, meal preparation, companionship, bathing, dressing, shopping, errands and transportation to activities, as well as care coordination and Geriatric Care Management Services. Alliance Senior Care has expertise in providing dementia care, Alzheimer's care, hospice care, identifying alternative financing solutions and care coordination. Alliance Senior Care has developed relationships with the largest Long Term Care Insurance companies in the industry including; John Hancock, Lincoln Financial, Bankers Life, CNA and others. Dina has a BBA from the University of Michigan and an MBA from Indiana University. She left her career in corporate Finance to start Alliance Senior Care with her husband, Brian. Dina has also had the very personal experience of caring for her own family members. She is an active member of the Aging Life Care Association.
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